Thinking About the Future

OMG! Today, I was thinking about Tristan leaving for college next week. You know, being all sad and depressed-like because my baby is leaving me. Anyway, out of no where, a scary thought popped into my head ( I know. That in itself is scary that a thought would actually want to be in there, but I digress.)

I thought (to myself, of course), "What am I going to do when all the kids are gone? I'm going to have to spend time alone.......with their father!"

This may sound like a nice thing when the kids are always underfoot. What couple doesn't dream of just a few hours alone together (a few days? weeks?) to reconnect and pretend that they aren't parents? I know I have had a thought or two over the years like this. But every day?

What will we do? What will we talk about? Do we have a solid enough relationship to hang together without the children as glue? I have to be honest, the thought is a bit terrifying to me. I know couples go through this all the time. We aren't the first, and of course, we have a few years before that happens, but maybe we need to start preparing.

Maybe some relationship coaching can help? I'm willing to try anything to ensure that Mike doesn't get bored of me, or worse yet, that I don't get bored of him. I mean, we're going to be all alone in this house with no kids to wait on, or yell at. As good as that sounds, I'm going to be lost. Who will I mother? Mike? Will he let me?

Oh for the love of Pete! That is ridiculous!

And, who will he yell at and guide ever so firmly and loudly in the right direction? Me? I can't imagine.

If anyone is going to be in the Springfield, NJ area on September 9th, stop in at Barnes and Noble for the "Commitment vs. Complacency" discussion. It's part of the Heart vs. Mind series given by R.A. Leslie, a motivational speaker and life coach. It should prove to be very powerful and provocative!