What the heck is wrong with them? Are they really that insensitive to others? Are they really that self-centered?
Here is the conversation that took place this morning between 3am and 5am between me and Mike.
The alarm goes off at 3am. It's on my side of the bed because he never hears it.
Me: "Honey, it's time to get up."
Mike: "Grumble, grumble, grumble."
I get out of bed to go make him a lunch while he's supposed to be getting up and dressing.
At this point, I've been up for about 15 minutes, and am pretty awake. He hasn't come out of the bedroom yet. So, I go back in there.
Me: "HONEY! It's time to get up. You're going to be late."
Mike: "I'm tired. I'll go in an hour late. Reset the alarm for 4am."
Now, this ticks me off because by this point I'm awake, but still tired. I usually go back to bed after he leaves and enjoy a couple of hours of peaceful, quiet, snore free sleep. I really look forward to this sleep. Now that I'm awake, and he's still home, snoring, I won't be able to get back to sleep.
I angrily get back into bed, snatching the blankets away from him (he's already started to snore again), and reset the alarm.
The alarm rings again at 4am.
Me: "Honey, get up. It's time for work."
Mike: "I'm still tired. Reset it for 5am."
Me: "WHAT?! You've got to be kidding. I'm tired too, and I can't sleep with you snoring like that! You need to decide the night before what time you're going to get up."
Mike: "So what if you're tired. You don't have to work."
So in other words, I don't matter, and because I don't have to physically go to work, it doesn't matter that I don't get enough sleep. Because you know, the magical fairies come during the day while he's at work and clean my house, and do my laundry, and take care of the kids, and the bills, and whatever else needs handled.
I reset the alarm again. He's snoring again.
The alarm goes off at 5am. I smack him.
Me: "Get up!"
Mike: "There! I'm getting out of YOUR bedroom."
Me: "It's about damned time, since I have to get up with the kids in a little while."
Mike: "I'm going to work."
Me: "Bye."
The thing that gets me, and this isn't the first time, he doesn't think that what I do is important. He doesn't care that he snores like a freight train and I get two hours of sleep tops each night, and that I really look forward to that couple of hours after he leaves for work. He also forgets that I don't have to get up at 3am with him to make his stupid lunch. He could make his own.
Sometimes I feel so taken for granted.
Men!
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Wednesday, April 2, 2008
2 comments:
Hmmm, I'm still wondering why you feel you have to get up with a grown man, make his lunch and see him off to work?
Okay,that sounds harsh and I apologize. I used to get up at the same time my ex husband did once upon a time and do the same thing. Then, I started making his lunch the night before so I really had no *reason* to get up when he did. Then, I just asked myself why in the world I was getting up with him at all?
I had just had Olivia and I needed sleep when I could get it. He was a grown man and could certainly make his own lunch and see himself to work. After all, he never got up with me when I was working...
(((HUGS)))
Ya know, most people say the same thing when they find out that I get up with him to make his lunch. I don't kinow why I do it. I just always have. When we were first married, I suppose I did it because I wanted to do nice things for him, and I didn't mind at all being up and saying good bye to him. Now, I guess I just do it out of habit, and you're right. He can certainly make his own lunch, but knowing my husband, he wouldn't make his lunch. He'd buy lunch at work instead, spending money that we don't have, because he's too lazy to make his own. We've been married a long time, and I know how his mind works. Maybe I'll start making it the night before, and not get up with him. We'll see what happens then! Thanks for the comment and the hugs!
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